On Mar 30, 11:29 pm, "Talula" <maddali...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> On Mar 30, 5:49 pm, "lavender" <nerf_herde...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> > On Mar 30, 2:12 pm, "Talula" <maddali...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
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> > > On Mar 27, 6:11 pm, "Garbled" <garb...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
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> > > > "lavender" <nerf_herde...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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> > > >news:1174948029.146217.267650@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> > > > > Are you trying to tell me men can't love and only care about
***? That
> > > > > women are useless except for ***?
>
> > > > Men don't love like women love. Men predominantly care more about
the act
> > > > of *** than the emotion of love. Women want different things than
men do.
> > > > Nothing wrong with that, most men recognize what their
shortcomings are.
> > > > The problem is that women spend their entire lives trying to
change the men
> > > > into something they are not. Men are physical, women are
emotional. Trying
> > > > to make a man emotional is only asking for trouble as it is
against his
> > > > nature.
>
> > > I've kept my mouth shut throughout this whole thread because I seen
it
> > > as too ridiculous to even get involved but this post here struck a
> > > tiny nerve, mostly becuse that it the exact opposite type of
marriage
> > > that I am in. Chris and I have been best friends for 16 years and
> > > although there were always feeling there I wouldn't express them for
> > > the simple fact that if I didn't know if it would last forever, then
I
> > > didn't want to lose my best friend if we were to ever break up.
thats
> > > besides the point, I'm just giving a setting for you to better
> > > understand me and what I say about my relation****p with him, we both
> > > agreed a long time ago that without love,trust,honestly and respect
> > > towards each other every single day,then there's no point in
pursuing
> > > "us" any longer. I also must add that we must have total acceptance
> > > for each others faults and never try to change each other, that's
why
> > > I do my drugs and he does NO drugs and he never says a word, he
plays
> > > in band, goes to "death metal" concerts (which I dislike,so I don't
> > > go) and has season tickets to football every year ( which i don't go
> > > often, bores me) and I can go out without him and stubble in at 7am
> > > and all he says is "did you have fun" and not sarcastic,but sincere.
I
> > > work hard to contribute to our household even though he says I never
> > > have to work ever again if i don't want to. I was incarcerated for a
> > > short time while he decided to put it upon himself to surprise me
with
> > > the most beautiful wedding I could have imagined! I wanted to elope
in
> > > key west in the abandoned castle/fort in the garden that overlooks
the
> > > ocean, and as if he were in my head he planned it all,every detail,
> > > all I had to do is get out of jail,of course, and get my wedding
dress
> > > and pick my flowers. He is more of a man than anyone I'll ever
> > > know,not that there's not some great guys out there, I just like
mine
> > > best. He is secure with hmself as a man and me,and I know that cuz
of
> > > my drug use that I'm not always in the safest of situations but he
> > > trusts my judgement, and I respect him for all his hard work and for
> > > being very masculine and caring at the same time. it's a very
> > > attractive balance.
> > > perhaps what we have is rare, maybe being best friends first gave
the
> > > basis for the respect and to truely want each other to be happy, we
> > > make fun of each other and laugh all the time. sometimes I see alot
of
> > > possesiveness in other relation****ps that start very soon after
> > > meeting, so I'm grateful something in me told me to wait.
>
> > > So when you say that women want to change men into who they want
them
> > > to be, just know that you shouldn't say "all women" or even "most
> > > women", because nothing you described in your post remotely sounds
> > > familiar to me and I'd appreciate you not putting me as a women that
> > > wouldn't change her man in any way, in this stereotype or
> > > generalization. theres all sorts of differences in people, men and
> > > women.why is that so hard to see?And I don't think men and women
love
> > > differently, I think they maybe just communicate differently
> > > sometimes. just my .07 cents.
>
> > > Talula
>
> > Talula, I just wanted to say that this is a beautiful post. I think
> > you are right about men and women sometimes communicating differently,
> > but not loving differently. That was really insightful and smart.
> > Anyway, it sounds like you have a wonderful, beautiful relation****p.
> > It also sounds like you deserve it! Good for you and here's wi****ng
> > you and Chris many, many years of happiness.- Hide quoted text -
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> > - Show quoted text -
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> Thank you Lavender, I doubt I deserve him at times, but i do what i
> can to show my appreciation for him for simply being who he is. and I
> just wanted to say that I'm sure this will all blow over soon enough,
> what happens today is forgotten tomorrow right? Not that I think you
> did anything wrong, you feel how you feel, and others feel how they
> feel, so how can anyones feeling be wrong? what I posted below to Brah
> also goes for you as well as everyone else in this
> ng. Thanks for saying it was insightful and smart but I'm not trying
> to be right or impress anyone, I'm just saying how I feel but it is a
> nice compliment anyway,so thank you! Let this all bleed and wash away
> ok? I think Brah was just looking out for you ,at least that's how I
> percieved his posts. I hope if you two are friends then you won't let
> something like this come between you, sometimes it's best to agree to
> disagree, and get over it. take care and don't waste you energy trying
> to defend yourself or be angry, ok? TTYL
>
> luv,
> Talula
You are an absolute sweetheart, you know that? I wish there were more
people like you around. As I said, you DESERVE your relation****p and
it's easy to see how it works. How couldn't a relation****p work with
someone as nice as you in it?
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