On Mar 30, 5:49 pm, "lavender" <nerf_herde...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> On Mar 30, 2:12 pm, "Talula" <maddali...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> > On Mar 27, 6:11 pm, "Garbled" <garb...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> > > "lavender" <nerf_herde...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> > > > Are you trying to tell me men can't love and only care about ***?
That
> > > > women are useless except for ***?
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> > > Men don't love like women love. Men predominantly care more about
the act
> > > of *** than the emotion of love. Women want different things than
men do.
> > > Nothing wrong with that, most men recognize what their shortcomings
are.
> > > The problem is that women spend their entire lives trying to change
the men
> > > into something they are not. Men are physical, women are emotional.
Trying
> > > to make a man emotional is only asking for trouble as it is against
his
> > > nature.
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> > I've kept my mouth shut throughout this whole thread because I seen it
> > as too ridiculous to even get involved but this post here struck a
> > tiny nerve, mostly becuse that it the exact opposite type of marriage
> > that I am in. Chris and I have been best friends for 16 years and
> > although there were always feeling there I wouldn't express them for
> > the simple fact that if I didn't know if it would last forever, then I
> > didn't want to lose my best friend if we were to ever break up. thats
> > besides the point, I'm just giving a setting for you to better
> > understand me and what I say about my relation****p with him, we both
> > agreed a long time ago that without love,trust,honestly and respect
> > towards each other every single day,then there's no point in pursuing
> > "us" any longer. I also must add that we must have total acceptance
> > for each others faults and never try to change each other, that's why
> > I do my drugs and he does NO drugs and he never says a word, he plays
> > in band, goes to "death metal" concerts (which I dislike,so I don't
> > go) and has season tickets to football every year ( which i don't go
> > often, bores me) and I can go out without him and stubble in at 7am
> > and all he says is "did you have fun" and not sarcastic,but sincere. I
> > work hard to contribute to our household even though he says I never
> > have to work ever again if i don't want to. I was incarcerated for a
> > short time while he decided to put it upon himself to surprise me with
> > the most beautiful wedding I could have imagined! I wanted to elope in
> > key west in the abandoned castle/fort in the garden that overlooks the
> > ocean, and as if he were in my head he planned it all,every detail,
> > all I had to do is get out of jail,of course, and get my wedding dress
> > and pick my flowers. He is more of a man than anyone I'll ever
> > know,not that there's not some great guys out there, I just like mine
> > best. He is secure with hmself as a man and me,and I know that cuz of
> > my drug use that I'm not always in the safest of situations but he
> > trusts my judgement, and I respect him for all his hard work and for
> > being very masculine and caring at the same time. it's a very
> > attractive balance.
> > perhaps what we have is rare, maybe being best friends first gave the
> > basis for the respect and to truely want each other to be happy, we
> > make fun of each other and laugh all the time. sometimes I see alot of
> > possesiveness in other relation****ps that start very soon after
> > meeting, so I'm grateful something in me told me to wait.
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> > So when you say that women want to change men into who they want them
> > to be, just know that you shouldn't say "all women" or even "most
> > women", because nothing you described in your post remotely sounds
> > familiar to me and I'd appreciate you not putting me as a women that
> > wouldn't change her man in any way, in this stereotype or
> > generalization. theres all sorts of differences in people, men and
> > women.why is that so hard to see?And I don't think men and women love
> > differently, I think they maybe just communicate differently
> > sometimes. just my .07 cents.
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> > Talula
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> Talula, I just wanted to say that this is a beautiful post. I think
> you are right about men and women sometimes communicating differently,
> but not loving differently. That was really insightful and smart.
> Anyway, it sounds like you have a wonderful, beautiful relation****p.
> It also sounds like you deserve it! Good for you and here's wi****ng
> you and Chris many, many years of happiness.- Hide quoted text -
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Thank you Lavender, I doubt I deserve him at times, but i do what i
can to show my appreciation for him for simply being who he is. and I
just wanted to say that I'm sure this will all blow over soon enough,
what happens today is forgotten tomorrow right? Not that I think you
did anything wrong, you feel how you feel, and others feel how they
feel, so how can anyones feeling be wrong? what I posted below to Brah
also goes for you as well as everyone else in this
ng. Thanks for saying it was insightful and smart but I'm not trying
to be right or impress anyone, I'm just saying how I feel but it is a
nice compliment anyway,so thank you! Let this all bleed and wash away
ok? I think Brah was just looking out for you ,at least that's how I
percieved his posts. I hope if you two are friends then you won't let
something like this come between you, sometimes it's best to agree to
disagree, and get over it. take care and don't waste you energy trying
to defend yourself or be angry, ok? TTYL
luv,
Talula
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